Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, & a little something to take the edge off
I’ve been getting e-mails from brides asking questions about this or that and telling me how stressed they are. I think every bride has had a mini-meltdown only to laugh about it the next day. I thought it would be fun to share a little something that all brides could relate to.
If you are a bride to be, there’s a pretty good chance all of these things have already happened.
You have wedding nightmares
They are so out of this world, but realistic at the same time. These wedding nightmares are becoming so frequent that you should expect them, yet every time you wake up you are so thankful it was just a dream. There’s nothing worse than dreaming your whole bridal party is drunk and late, your hair was never done, your dress is completely wrong and you are about to walk down the aisle in five minutes. Ugh, nightmares are the worst! My husband had one where he has a purple tux and never wrote his vows. Unfortunately, this is part of the fun wedding world I told y’all about! This will make you laugh when you look back on it.
You will learn you have even more family than you knew about
You have everyone you can possibly think of on your guest list until you find out your grandma has five cousins and your dad has another ten friends that you didn’t know about. You didn’t know Aunt Sue has 4 kids who each have 3 children. Before you know it, you are questioning if there’s a secret family someone has because you have no idea who some of these people are. Be prepared to find out everyone you didn’t know existed now exists. Brides, be ready to adjust your numbers and have a few headaches along the way. There’s plenty of helpful guides on Pinterest of who to invite and who to leave off your guest list. If your parents are helping pay for the wedding, then be understanding if they have certain people that they want to invite.
You have considered eloping
There just seems like there is so much to do. You feel like you need to quit your job just to wedding plan! Then you stop and wonder if you actually need a second job to simply pay for your wedding. One day you are looking at your wedding Pinterest board and say “let’s just elope so we can just be done with this!” As much as eloping sounded like a great idea at times, I’m so happy we had the wedding that we envisioned! YOU CAN DO THIS LADIES!
You never cared about flowers so much in your life
When making your budget, flowers may be at the end of your priority list. However, when you’re a couple months in you know every possible flower that grows on this Earth, when peonies are in season, and that there are more “types” of roses than you can count on your fingers. You also start to wonder how much Kanye paid for that rose wall he got Kim a couple years back – okay maybe that was just me, but damn that must have been expensive. Whatever you decide will look great – most people won’t remember what your flowers looked like the next day.
You thought picking out bridesmaid dresses would be a piece of cake
You think you have everything planned perfectly and picking out a bridesmaid dress will be easy until (before you know it) you have twenty dresses that you are considering and have to narrow it down. You wonder if every bride is like this or is it just you? What color? Long or short? Will these be comfortable? Too expensive? Can I just buy this dress for myself? Bridesmaid dress shopping will drive you nuts. Just keep your bridesmaids in mind, nothing too expensive, and something they can dance in and you’ll be good! Don’t second guess your color scheme – just keep planning, just keep planning…
All you want to do is go to your cake tasting already
You are so over looking at numbers and everything you need, all you want right now is some cake and to go home and watch Sex in the City and be left alone. You have a secret countdown for your cake tasting, because you can’t wait for the creative cake combinations you have picked out. After your tasting you took so many notes, you should be qualified to be a judge on cupcake wars.
You second guess everything
You have everything planned, but then question the smallest detail of your invite. Before you know it, you have a new color pallet for your wedding and a new honeymoon destination picked out as this is all happening at 3 AM. You then wonder if you picked the right dress, the right music, and the right font on your place cards. You just want to curl up in the fetal position and call your mom. Just remember, go with your gut and try to not sweat the small stuff. You got this!
You wonder what you will talk about when your wedding is over
For the past so many months you can’t help but talk about your wedding. As much as you get sick of the planning, you cannot stop talking about it. When someone asks what you are doing this weekend, you spill your whole wedding vision to them, condensed into a short thirty minutes. If you could, you’d have a PowerPoint on hand to show them in detail. You question what you used to do in your spare time before becoming engaged and wonder what the hell you are going to do when your wedding is over… maybe you start a wedding blog…
You realize your Pinterest wedding budget is much different than your real life budget
On Pinterest, your hope is to take your pins and turn it into a wedding reality. Sure this seems manageable, within budget, and totally doable. That is until you realize that cake you pinned is probably $5,000 and that your wedding board is probably the price of Brangelina’s wedding in 2014 – you just didn’t know all of this until you did your research. You have to accept the reality of what things cost and that you probably won’t get everything you were hoping. Don’t worry – your wedding will be beautiful, perfect and within budget (okay, maybe slightly over, but it’s alright)!
You become so close to your wedding planning Facebook group
You question how you survived without these other brides to be before. They get you. They understand the stress. You wonder if you should start inviting some of these ladies to your wedding since most of them are helping you plan it. These are the only people who understand the stress of hiding your dress photo from your fiancé but, with this group, you can show whatever to whoever and you feel freeeee!
I hope you ladies enjoyed this because at the end of the day the headaches and stress are only a smalll part of the big picture. Remember you are planning for one of the best days or your life so have fun, drink some champagne, and know that every little thing is going to be okay.
Bubbly Wife Tip: If you’re feeling stressed about your budget, make a list of you and your fiances top priorities and figure out which items are most important to you.
Happy wedding planning and if you have questions, need advice feel free to always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org!